The next Bumble match to respond…
Me: Hey there (After the last disaster I’m not putting effort in until I know they’re not an idiot)
Him:Hi. Are you the dominant type
Sinking feeling. I know where this is going. I check his profile again – he seems normal enough. I will give him the benefit of the doubt.
Me: In what sense? Relationships?
Him: sexually. Do you always like to be in full control?
Clearly, my world is very different to everyone else’s.
In my world, I log on to Bumble. I look at the pictures and profiles and decide if a) I could ever picture letting this man anywhere near me, b) he is possibly a murderer/psychopath/player, c) we have anything in common. I then swipe accordingly.
In my world, I realise that there will be men who do not like me. Fair enough. I also realise that if I do end up with a match, either one of us may then decide after messaging that it may not work. And, as experience has taught me, even if you then get to the stage of meeting up, the same may happen there too. Those are my expectations. That’s what I understand.
Clearly I am wrong here. Apparently men ‘swipe right’ to like you because:
A) they want the chance to abuse your appearance
B) They just want kinky sex and that’s all
C) they then want to completely ignore the message you’ve just sent even though you have matched.
One more day and then I’m giving up. I’m not expecting true romance here straight away, but a little humanity would be good.