Lessons from a scammer

In my last post, I explained how I feel people come into your life for a reason.

This man came in to my life very recently.

Luckily for me, I realised he was a scammer within a few hours.

I’m hoping this will help others.

  1. Hate to say it, but, if it feels too good to be true, it probably is. Michael claimed to be an American soldier working in the UK and he was looking for love and out of the many, many, women after him… He chose me.
  2. Look at the details. As soon as I started to feel something was off, I did a little research. I found a half empty profile on Facebook, no pictures, but with around five women as friends. I searched for an army barracks in the place he claimed he was – there was one, but not American.
  3. Don’t be surprised if what he says grabs your attention. The first night he told me that he had lots of interest on Hinge but that I had ‘sparked his interest.’ We moved onto WhatsApp, and he proceeded to send me a long sequence of questions. The questions were relatively well worded and so were his responses to his own questions. One of the first signs that something was wrong was that these long responses often arrived suddenly, seemingly without the time to write them. It was clear that they were being pasted in to the chat, and whilst I first thought it may be because he was speaking to multiple people, other clues suggested otherwise.
  4. Watch out for spelling and grammar! Easy for an English teacher I know, but there was an obvious inconsistency in his writing. Shorter responses contained grammatical mistakes that differed from the longer text. They read much like someone whose first language was not English.
  5. His answers were too perfect, until they weren’t. Yeah, pretty much everything he said at first was what any woman would want to hear. But I don’t believe anyone who quickly decides I am ‘their woman’.
  6. Avoidance of certain questions. Whilst his own responses were too perfect, he quickly started to avoid certain requests. Suspicious of his origins, I asked for a voice message. My suspicions were confirmed when a very, very bad American accent came back. When I asked for a photo, he declined stating it was ‘forbidden on the base’. Similarly when I requested that we speak on the phone in the future. He did send me a picture eventually, the one below, which did corrolate with his profile.
  7. The request, part one. I will admit, I played along at this point. I was 99% sure he was a scammer and I was intrigued at how this would go. Of course, I called him out on his accent etc. Very quickly, he suggested that we could meet. He then backtracked and told me I must be patient – after asking that I would be his girlfriend. (what the???)
  8. The request, part two. As soon as he (thought he) had secured me, he then asked for money. It wasn’t a lot, was written badly, and he had all of a sudden started calling me babe.

At that point, I told him that he had been reported, may have worded my feelings in an un-ladylike way and said he needed to work on his English writing and American accent. I then deleted him.

I do get it. For a few hours, he had me captivated. He made me feel special, agreed with what I said and told me what I wanted to hear.

Hope this helps someone out there.

It has reminded me to be cautious, not get swept away in the empty words of strangers.

And if you are the real gentleman below, you are delicious but your identity has been stolen. Good luck